Tell us a little about you.
I was born in Long Island, NY, and moved with my family to California as a teenager. I came to San Diego State University for college and stayed to work on my Master’s degree in Fine Arts. I worked for many years in marketing following graduate school and eventually went back for a second Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy at University of San Diego. I am currently working primarily with couples, but also really enjoy practicing therapies for adults with trauma, depression and anxiety.
What inspired you to work as a therapist?
I had a wonderful therapist many years ago for grief I experienced when my father passed away. I was stuck and didn’t know why. And as a lover of literature and language, I took a keen interest in the way my therapist asked questions and presented new ideas to me. I felt how effective the therapy was in supporting my personal goals and recovery from the loss. And I wanted to help others make the same wonderful changes to lead a more meaningful life.
What’s one personal value you hold dear as a therapist and why is it important to you?
Respect is important to me. I have a lot of respect for the courage it takes to ask for help. I have respect for each person’s unique story and experience. One person’s challenge can be another person’s trauma and I want to be curious but kind as I learn about it.
What is your approach to making change in therapy?
I believe everyone is doing the best they can with what they’ve been given. And I believe we are all capable of change, regardless. Human beings want connections with others, and sometimes the way we get that connection is not healthy. Sometimes the way we seek love or comfort triggers a fear in one’s partner. I have respect for the path and pace people take in making those discoveries. Change is often difficult to see until it really matters. I’m mindful to be patient as we work toward change for each client or couple.
After a long work week, how do you de-stress and unwind?
I like to exercise. I try to work out several days a week and I typically choose anything that gets my body moving. I like biking, long hikes, yoga, Pilates and barre. I also like to read books about the practice of therapy. I currently have several books waiting for me on my nightstand. I can’t read them as fast as I buy them, so I’m constantly feeling challenged to learn more and to be a better therapist.