5 tips to improve communication in your relationship

5 tips to improve communication in your relationship

Is your relationship stuck in a rut because of issues you are ignoring? It doesn’t have to be this way. By learning to communicate better with your partner, you can address issues before they become problems and provide needed emotional reassurance.  Even couples who...
FIVE HABITS THAT HELP TO MANAGE CONFLICTS

FIVE HABITS THAT HELP TO MANAGE CONFLICTS

People used to believe that highly satisfied couples had very few disagreements and very little conflict. But when relationship researchers measured the incidence of disagreements, they discovered that highly satisfied couples disagree just as often as other couples....
FOUR HABITS THAT DAMAGE RELATIONSHIPS

FOUR HABITS THAT DAMAGE RELATIONSHIPS

Marriage researcher John Gottman’s groundbreaking work on how couples interact revealed the four most common interactional patterns that damage relationships. While everyone exhibits these behaviors sometimes, when they become habitual, they are damaging to the...
BIDS FOR ATTENTION AND CONNECTION

BIDS FOR ATTENTION AND CONNECTION

What is a “bid” and how do you make one? Marriage researcher John Gottman calls bids the “fundamental unit of emotional communication.”  Bids are actions that people take to connect to or to gain the attention of their partner. Bids can take many forms: pointing at...
ATTACHMENT STYLES

ATTACHMENT STYLES

Attachment for Survival Many people are aware of typical survival routines like fight, flight, or freeze. Someone becomes angry and they take an aggressive stance. Someone becomes frightened and they run away. Someone becomes horrified and they freeze. Lesser known as...
Why Change Feels So Hard

Why Change Feels So Hard

Coming to therapy can feel really hard. What usually brings us to therapy is the feeling of being out of control in some way and not knowing a way to change. One person might be in a series of unstable relationships. Another might not be able to stop drinking. And...