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Get To Know Hayley Eglash
Tell us a little about you. I am a Midwesterner at heart, born and raised in Wisconsin. After attending the University of Wisconsin-Madison (Go Badgers!), I moved across country to the amazing city of San Diego. I have master’s degrees in Kinesiology from A.T. Still...
Get To Know Amy Juleson
Tell us a little about you. I was born in Connecticut and raised in Tucson. I spent all my summers back East and all my family moved back after I completed high school. I moved to San Diego temporarily 20 years ago after visiting during Spring Break and just haven’t...
Why Do I Need Constant Reassurance in my Relationship
Relationship anxiety is normal and can be part of a healthy relationship. When your partner leaves on a trip for an extended period, or you haven’t yet reconciled from a fight, you may feel on edge, waiting for a signal that will reassure you everything is okay. But...
5 Ways To Keep Your Relationship Strong During the Holidays
With the holidays upon us, your relationship may be the last thing on your mind. The stress of gift buying, family gatherings, or time with the in-laws can put many of us on edge. If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Read on to discover how you and your partner...
Get to Know Barbara Rorbach
Tell us a little about you. I was born and raised in Switzerland and moved to San Diego when I was 25 years old. I speak German, French, and Italian. I am very interested in languages and different cultures and spent my early twenties backpacking South America and...
Get to Know Meghan Semler
Tell us a little about you. I was born and raised near Philadelphia and attended undergrad at Kenyon College where I played soccer, studied Chinese Religions, and spent a semester abroad in Taiwan. After college I worked at a brokerage firm in DC and then for the...
Get to Know Neha Rathaur
Tell us a little about you. I was born and raised in the Bay Area, mostly, as I did spend a couple years of my childhood in India. Being bicultural has played a major role in my life and development as it has shaped the way in which I learn information and make...
Get to Know Beth Deig
Tell us a little about you: I was born in Wisconsin, spent my school years in Indiana, and returned to Wisconsin for college but I moved to San Diego on an adventurous whim in my early 20’s and never left! After a variety of office jobs and a brief stint as a holistic...
Getting in Touch with Your Feelings
“How does that make you feel?” Is there any bigger cliché in therapy than asking a client that question? A friend of mine said to me, “That question is so made fun of in our culture, how do you even ask it with a straight face?” And yet I do. It is, day in and day...
Finding One’s Power in Self-Regulation
As clinicians, we hold a lot of respect for the process. Just sitting with a client and holding space for the pain one might avoid in everyday life is often enough of an intervention to create meaningful change for a client. I try to be diligent and caring in that...
Three Key Phases to Recovering from an Affair
Betrayal is awful; there aren't many people who'd argue otherwise. But why does it happen? What causes someone to engage in relationship infidelity? Typically, infidelity happens when the relationship is suffering from lack of emotional intimacy and often suppressing...
5 tips to improve communication in your relationship
Even couples who get along well are bound to face occasional difficulties in the relationship, and effective communication strategies help navigate those challenges.
What is Couples Therapy Exactly and How Can It Help Me
When I tell people that I am a couples therapist, they have all sorts of questions. In this series of posts, I thought I would write about the questions I’m asked most frequently about couples therapy and share how I answer them.
FIVE HABITS THAT HELP TO MANAGE CONFLICTS
People used to believe that highly satisfied couples had very few disagreements and very little conflict.
FOUR HABITS THAT DAMAGE RELATIONSHIPS
Marriage researcher John Gottman’s groundbreaking work on how couples interact revealed the four most common interactional patterns that damage relationships.
BIDS FOR ATTENTION AND CONNECTION
What is a “bid” and how do you make one? Marriage researcher John Gottman calls bids the “fundamental unit of emotional communication.” Bids are actions that people take to connect to or to gain the attention of their partner. Bids can take many forms: pointing at...
ATTACHMENT STYLES
Attachment for Survival Many people are aware of typical survival routines like fight, flight, or freeze. Someone becomes angry and they take an aggressive stance. Someone becomes frightened and they run away. Someone becomes horrified and they freeze. Lesser known as...
Why Change Feels So Hard
Coming to therapy can feel really hard. What usually brings us to therapy is the feeling of being out of control in some way and not knowing a way to change. One person might be in a series of unstable relationships. Another might not be able to stop drinking. And...
What is Couples Therapy and How Can It Help Me?
There are many different forms of couples therapy, but two of the most popular evidence-based modalities are the Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy.
What Can I Do To Change My Partner?
As a couples therapist, I get this question all the time. Sometimes it's spoken with anger, sometimes despair, sometimes sorrow, and sometimes exhausted resignation. Behind the question is often feelings of hurt, powerlessness, and a sense of something being broken in...
The Importance of How You End Your Day for the Management of Mood Disorders
Think for a few minutes about how you usually end your day. Are you "doomscrolling" through news websites, watching an endless queue of suggested videos on YouTube, binge watching a Netflix series, ruminating about a problem at work, getting into an argument with your...
The Importance of a Weekly Check-in for Couples
One thing that I often hear from couples is that they don’t have regular conversations about what is going on with them and that they can’t seem to be able to find a good time to bring up difficult topics. As time passes, two consequences emerge. First, they find that...
Creating distance when your boundary isn’t respected
Sometimes we may have a relationship that we want to keep but that feels out of control and unsafe. For instance, we may have a relative like a parent or sibling who consistently runs over our boundaries no matter how clear we are about what our expectations are....
Meet Kathryn Krane
Tell us a little about you. I was raised in East Tennessee and moved to San Diego when I was in my late 20s. I worked in a couple of different careers before deciding that I wanted to pursue the longtime dream of becoming a therapist. As a therapist, I have worked...
Meet Lauren Mason
Tell us a little about you. I was born in Long Island, NY, and moved with my family to California as a teenager. I came to San Diego State University for college and stayed to work on my Master’s degree in Fine Arts. I worked for many years in marketing following...
