“Big” Emotional Responses in Relationships

“Big” Emotional Responses in Relationships

What could be happening when your (or your partner’s) emotional response feels bigger than it “should” be? Sometimes when I’m working with a couple on their relationship, they report to me that they have emotional arguments about what they consider to be “nothing”...
Getting in Touch with Your Feelings

Getting in Touch with Your Feelings

“How does that make you feel?” Is there any bigger cliché in therapy than asking a client that question? A friend of mine said to me, “That question is so made fun of in our culture, how do you even ask it with a straight face?” And yet I do. It is, day in and day...
Five Habits That Help To Manage Conflicts

Five Habits That Help To Manage Conflicts

People used to believe that highly satisfied couples had very few disagreements and very little conflict. But when relationship researchers measured the incidence of disagreements, they discovered that highly satisfied couples disagree just as often as other couples....