Why Change Feels So Hard

Why Change Feels So Hard

Coming to therapy can feel really hard. What usually brings us to therapy is the feeling of being out of control in some way and not knowing a way to change. One person might be in a series of unstable relationships. Another might not be able to stop drinking. And...
What is Couples Therapy and How Can It Help Me?

What is Couples Therapy and How Can It Help Me?

When I tell people that I am a couples therapist, they have all sorts of questions. In today’s post, I thought I would write about the questions I’m asked most frequently about couples therapy and share how I answer them. Who should go to couples therapy? There are...
What Can I Do To Change My Partner?

What Can I Do To Change My Partner?

As a couples therapist, I get this question all the time. Sometimes it’s spoken with anger, sometimes despair, sometimes sorrow, and sometimes exhausted resignation. Behind the question is often feelings of hurt, powerlessness, and a sense of something being...